Is Marriage A Cure For Promiscuity?

Is Marriage A Cure For Promiscuity?

PROMISCUITY is fast becoming prevalent in our society. It has become a way of having fun especially in the male species. According to the men, it is a way of testing water and surfing grounds. The African man sees promiscuity as tasting different kinds of soup and knowing which one appeals most to his stomach. Some say it is the changing of shirts to the most suitable one. Many men out there believe that at the time they say their vows, they are automatically curbed of promiscuity. This is due to the fact that they are married and must be faithful to their wives.

Is marriage a cure for promiscuity is a question that demands an answer. Seriously, is that really possible when we all know that promiscuity is a habit. Getting married is not a cure rather, promiscuity is given a new name “Adultery”. Promiscuity is a habit which cannot disappear with just vows; it is a consistent desire to stop that destroys the habit.

Have you ever wondered why married men go out of their matrimonial bed for single ladies or the preference for married man by single ladies. Marriage is an institution and also a process of learning how to live with people of different characters, attitudes, personality usually a male and a female. Marriage reveals flaws of both partners and hereby is no cure for promiscuity as ascertained by some men.

One thing men fail to realize in marriage is that it opens you up to flaws, tests, and difficulties except if it is resolved amicably. Promiscuity only gets worse when flaws in marriages are revealed. It is a sexual addiction common amongst men. The main drive for promiscuity to me is that men see women as just a tool for satisfying their sexual urge rather than as an intelligent being they can learn from.

What then is the cure? Knowing now that promiscuity is a habit that needs to be dealt with. The first step is admitting you are and that the desire to stop has been decided. After that, self control over your sexual urge has to be learnt. The Bible condemns promiscuity in that it sees it as an aberration of marriage and also a spiritual problem. The only way out of promiscuity is through avoiding materials that increase your urge and having self-control.

To those who still think marriage is a cure for promiscuity is deceiving themselves. I leave this question for them to answer. What happens when your wife gives you a silence treat and is asking for space. Do you as a man wait patiently or you jump into the next available bed.

For ladies whose men are promiscuous and saying “honey, when we say our vows, I will remain faithful to you is a big LIE. You cannot change what you are or as my friend puts it “You are, what you are”. Let him deal with his habits before standing at the altar.

To all you guys who are deceiving themselves, it’s time to wake up from your slumber and deal with promiscuity. If you cannot stick to one girl, how sure are you that you will remain faithful to your wife after being married?